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Short Shorts - Part Two
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| Life Story | Short Shorts #2 -- These are some short quips of things I have heard from a variety of different persons in the gender community. Some are humorous, some warm, some sad. Hopefully these will generate some contemplation on the part of the reader of what it means to be transgendered. The pronoun "I" used below is not necessarily Amanda speaking, but one of the many persons who related these thoughts to me. | ||||||||
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Copyright 1996. Amanda Lynn Richards, All rights reserved.
HOT LINE HANGUPS: Some callers just cannot say a word when the call our support group hot line. Some say just a few. Some manage to stay on and call several times before they get the nerve to come to a meeting.
FIRST TIME OUT: Some first-timers come to the location of the meeting, but can't get out of the car to come in. They drive off. Sometimes they come back and try again.
FIRST TIME IN: Some first-timers are so glad to have found others like them. They are full of joy to find an outlet for their dressing and instant companionship.
HIDING: Many crossdressers hide this from their wives. One rents a storage shed where he keeps all 'her' things.
HELPERS: Many women vendors visit support groups offering everything from hairdos to jewelry to make overs and modeling lessons. They truly love the association, and I think many would be part of helping crossdressers, even if there was no monetary return.
HOW MUCH?: A statistic noted that a full 10% of JC Penney catalog sales of women's clothing go to men's addresses.
IN BED? Wife: He wants to go to bed with me while he's dressed as a woman. Do I let him? I know it will make him very happy, but I'm not sure what it will do to or for me. I'm not ready for that one yet.
WANTS A MAN: He can dress in his womans clothes all he wants, but when it comes to sex, I want a man.
SHE IS HE: Wife: I don't mind going to bed with my husband wearing lingerie, lipstick and a wig. I look beyond the outward into his person. This is really the wonderful person I married with all of the masculine and feminine tendencies he displays. He pleases me so much in bed, why wouldn't I want to share in pleasing him?
SEX IS POPULAR BECAUSE IT'S CENTRALLY LOCATED: Sex is between your legs. Gender is in your heart and soul.
MORE FUN: Crossdressing is the most fun you can have with your clothes on.
SHE SAID: At a recent meeting a significant other expressed how happy she was with her fiance who is a crossdresser. She felt she knew his full person and his feminine side was an asset to their relationship. Lucky for both, they even are the same size and their wardrobe is doubled.
PICTURES: She won't even look at pictures of him dressed as a woman. Why not? Wouldn't it calm her fears and wondering of how good/bad he looks?
CRIME: A transsexual is murdered in Chicago recently in a definite hate crime. She was well known and loved by many. Full page ads appeared in gay newspapers condemning the brutal act.
PARA MEDICS: A crossdresser is in an automobile accident and the paramedics must remove her underclothing in order to treat her wounds. They see she is male and they ridicule her and stop giving treatment. She dies.
MORE HATE: A transgendered man is murdered when he is discovered to be a woman. This was a week after he was beaten up and went to police seeking protection.
EQUALITY: Why is it that Ru Paul, Dennis Rodman and several Hollywood stars who have recently portrayed women in hit movies like Tu Wong Fu, Mrs. Doubtfire or The Bird Cage can receive accolades, but when a regular ordinary guy is blessed with transgenderism, his wife, family and friends turn against him?
NEWSPAPER ADS: Did you ever read the support group ads in the Chicago Tribune Sunday Woman's News section?
GOLDEN RULE: The more you accept yourself as you are, the more others will accept you.
SPIRITUAL: Newcomer asks: "Does anyone here really wake up in the morning thanking God for this 'gift'?" A person who is quite spiritual answers "yes" and tells of his acceptance of transgenderism as a gift.
STATISTIC: The biggest wearers of underthings of the opposite sex are a category of younger women who openly wear mens boxer shorts as part of their outfit. No one criticizes them like they do a man in a bra.
FOR WHO? I'm at the check out buying a Kasper business suit. The clerk tells me it's so nice of me to buy something so elegant for my wife. I smile and tell her it's for me. She doesn't know what to say, but manages to at least say "I hope you enjoy it." Little does she know how much I will.
SUPPORT GROUPS: A crossdresser is treated so nicely as a woman as she buys lots of things at a clearance at a Liz Claiborne outlet store. The final remarks center around buying so much, after all it was on sale. The unsuspecting clerk responds "There are support groups for people like you". The CD has a hearty inner laugh.
SELF PLEASURE: I give in to self pleasuring because I am really in love with the woman I see in the mirror. At one time I thought it to be so wrong, yet now it's so right.
DIVORCE: My wife wants to divorce me. I thought it was my crossdressing, but as I analyzed the situation there were so many other things wrong with this relationship. My lawyer says crossdressing won't be an issue in court. How can he be so sure? She outed me to my family and kids and hates me for it. She'll surely use it against me in the custody hearings.
DRAG or DRAB: The term 'drag' slangly refers to a man in woman's clothing. "En-drab" refers to a man in man's clothing.
LONG LINES: Crossdressers using the ladies room soon learn why it takes so long for the women to come out. There just aren't enough of stalls. Architects should crossdress for a year before being allowed to design a ladies room.
MY INVENTION WORKS: I create a device using some stiff wire, padding and tape. It fits under my wonder bra and pulls my chest muscles together to form very real looking cleavage. I'm wearing quite a low cut dress as I exit the elevator at a hotel, on my way to a party. A man stops and gawks right in front of me, making a remark under his breath. I sure had him fooled. I also learned what it's like to have men look at the breasts of a woman before they ever look in her eyes.
SPEEDING TICKET: A crossdresser is stopped for speeding on an interstate. She's dressed as a woman and so she hands the officer a home-made dual gender ID with pictures of her as male and female and a short explanatory statement. The officer examines the drivers license and the gender ID, smiles and laughingly reprimands the CD, telling her to watch her speed and "get out of here!"
ALTERNATIVE WORSHIP: A Catholic priest has founded a small group that worships each week. The focus is on gays, lesbians, bi-sexuals and transgendered persons. The 'religion' is open to that of all faiths and persons represented. It is truly a coming together of the diversity of God's creation.
WEDDING VOWS: I have seen pictures and read stories of crossdressers who either get married or renew their vows while wearing a wedding gown. Their genuine girl spouse might opt for a tux or wear a wedding gown too. I used to think it was kind of hoaky. Then I was asked to sing a couple songs at one such wedding. Being positioned near the couple I could see the tremendous love in their eyes as they recited their vows in complete acceptance of each other. I probably have sung for 1000 weddings in my life as a musician. No couple ever had such warmth and love as this one.
CHRISTMAS PRESENT: The boss asks me to play Vanna White for our company's holiday party. He does not know that I'm a crossdresser. I agree and I do myself up in a fantastic gown, sequined heels, long blonde wig and even some cleavage. Making my grand entrance, fellow workers scream with delight. I carry on my performance with fun and fashion. Afterwards I talk to others about how it felt...just great! If only they knew the truth. How I wish I could tell them.
HANDICAPPED DANCE: A severly handicapped crossdress walks with a very unbalance walk and can barely be understood when he talks. He has fallen in love with a similarly handicapped woman who is confined to a wheel chair. At a party of transgendered persons everyone is having a great time dancing. These two however remain alone at their table. One of the crossdressers approaches them and dances right in front of them, with them. Their faces light up with joy that someone has taken notice that they too would like to enjoy the music and dance...even if it's just moving their hands.
MEXICO: A person new to crossdressing tells us that he is taking hormones from Mexico. He also tells that doctors have warned him against it. We support the doctors and try to get him to understand the adverse effects hormones can have when not taken under a doctor's supervision, especially those sold illegally over border lines. He does not listen and says he just takes a few here and there. Hey wake up dude!
FRIEND LEARNS MY STORY: A former co-worker and I go out for a dinner reunion. I tell her about my crossdressing. She is quite amazed since she would never expect a professional person and father of a good family to be a crossdresser. She is supportive, though somewhat confused. However, she remains my friend.
REACHING OUT: The woman owner of a print shop recognizes that I am a male in female clothing. She is kind and does not let on until I pull out my credit card with my male name on it. She then begins a warm and friendly conversation about crossdressers. She is well aware that what she has seen on talk shows leans toward the sensational, rather than the mainstream of crossdressers. She is very happy to have met one, and I am very happy to have been the one.
A SISTER WHO HAS NOT HAD IT EASY FINDING ACCEPTANCE WRITES A POEM:
SISTERS - By: Donna Marie Conrad - 1/14/98
I won't have to walk this path alone !
There are other Sisters like me on the same path & we found that Gazebo
in the Garden !
Other Sisters that are going through the same living hell
of friends & family turning on them are there to listen & help !
We will hold each other up when we hurt !
We will pick up another Sister when She falls !
We will be a shoulder to cry on when the world hurts us !
We will love each other when no one else will !
We will not be alone !
We are Sisters !
From Jayma, 8/4/04
#1
Going alone to a straight bar dressed. I am amazed at how often men will not
know I am a CD. They will buy me drinks and ask me to dance. On the other hand,
women will know immediately that I am a CD. They will ask me to join them at
their table and ask me to dance.
#2
What should I do when a man buys me a drink? It is already made, and delivered
to me. Do I refuse it, waste the drink, and insult the guy? Do I accept it and
risk him coming over and sitting next to me? If he does try and start up a conversation,
do I tell him immediately I am not interested? Or do I talk to him for a little
while, or maybe dance with him. Suddenly I get a little peek into a thought
process of women which seems so illogical to men. This is one of the few times
that I think I have felt what it is to actually think like a woman.
#3
Why the hell would any self respecting woman want to wear pants!
#4
Going out dressed as a woman is a far better way to meet women than dressed
as a man.
